Are we even speaking the same language?

​I only speak English so if someone were to speak Spanish to me I would possibly catch a few words of what they’re saying but ultimately wouldn’t truly understand what they were trying to tell me.

This is what happens when believers try speaking to those who don’t have ears to hear or a heart to understand. Therefore they hurl insults at you because you believe something that is foreign to them.

“Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. Matthew 5:11 NASB

Stand firm in your beliefs and resist responding to their insults knowing that they simply didn’t understand what you were saying.

When we get into an argument over our beliefs we both lose, when it’s done online, which we all know that’s when the powerful keyboarders come out with fingers flaring. Those who look on lose also.

Remind them of these things, and solemnly charge them in the presence of God not to wrangle about words, which is useless and leads to the ruin of the hearers. Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth. But avoid worldly and empty chatter, for it will lead to further ungodliness,
2 Timothy 2:14‭-‬16 NASB

Friends there will be a time for us to speak and there will be a time for us to remain silent. Pray diligently for discernment on which is which. Not everyone sees as we see nor do they wish to. 

“Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. Matthew 7:6 NASB

Be blessed 

He listens to me

​I love the Lord , because He hears My voice and my supplications. Because He has inclined His ear to me, Therefore I shall call upon Him as long as I live.

Psalms 116:1‭-‬2 NASB

It was so easy for me to fall in love with God. He listens to me. He would answer my broken cries in ways that were so personal and direct that I couldn’t deny His Presence in my life. 

As the youngest child, and the only girl. I lived an internal life growing up. No one quite understanding who I was or taking the time to hear what I had to say. 

As a teenager I was an overly emotional kid. And this only grew my internal struggle. As a young wife and mother in a relationship that started on so many troubled levels. I always strived to be accepted and heard that I again lost my voice. 

As I came to the Lord I knew deep down that I desired for my children and other women to be HEARD. 

For me it’s the most painful scars I have. One that I guard fiercly. 

Not being heard. 

It provokes my flesh like no other within my current marriage. 

Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.

Ephesians 6:11‭-‬12 NASB 

Although my mind knows our battles are the devils schemes, and he is not a gentlemen and will use this pain as a weapon to destroy, it makes my ache no less painful. 

My scars are REAL. My pain is REAL. And my battle needs to be real as well. By knowing how the devil is using my pain as a weapon helps to arm me with the TRUTH of this pain. Its my flesh. And my flesh will always be hostile towards God. So when the enemy can get me to focus on myself and my pain then he steals my joy. Like John 10:10 says He will. 

So what do we do in times like this? Just act as if nothing’s happened? No. Denying it makes it grow. Face it. Make your spouse aware that they’re being used by the enemy to hurt you. Pray that your spouse begins to guard himself and his words by seeking God. Period. That’s how you defeat this enemy is by seeking God. Apologies are good, but if your anything like me your rather action be the apology as words can be empty when not followed up with action. 

Then you get your heart into God’s hands and embrace the TRUTH that He listens to you and He loves you completely, as you are His bride. 

For your husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.

Isaiah 54:5 NASB

After you’ve both allowed God to speak to your hearts then come together and let God guide your conversations. Always Seek God.