They’re watching 

​Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6 NASB

As parents it’s our responsibility to raise our children in the way they should go. 

Do they see you lying to your friends, co-workers,  or their other parent? Do they see you taking the easy way out? Do they hear you gossip to your friends? Do they see you getting drunk? Do they see you dating person after person? Do they see you having sleep overs without being married? Do they see you texting while driving? 

They’re watching you to train them in the way they should go. 

Do you praise God when things go right, how about when they go wrong? Do you trust in God when times get hard or are you consumed in your emotions? 

Children are sponges. They absorb what they see more than what you say. 

Be on guard when you live as a parent because you’re raising someones spouse, your grandbabies parents. 

Choose to live by example and care more about who they become versus what you want. 

Choose them over you. 

are you Spiritually Constipated?


God is pressing into me today how vital we are to one another. We have to truly understand that WE ARE THE CHURCH. Yes, we need one another, Yes, it’s amazing that we have the freedom to meet regularly within 4 walls…..BUT what are we doing with the anointing that we are given each week.

When I say that I mean, the pastor that stands up to teach you each week is imparting what God has placed within them. What are you and I doing with this? Is it even going anywhere other than your ears?

I have a saying that I have preached to my family and it’s that the church has become “spiritually constipated”. We are backed up and the enemy has WON in so many homes. We are greedy hoarders. We do not pour out what we’ve been given and what happens is our “wineskin” (our Spirit) becomes dry, stale, and unusable.

Now I write this but want those who begin to feel guilty because you’re wiped out or not strong enough to pour into others and require others to pour into you….to stop right there and listen. A couple months ago I had been given a word after starting a new church that takes up tithes and offerings pretty intensely. I felt strongly that God told me “I do not cause guilt” The Spirit than gave me understanding of this Word. I want to share this with you because that “guilt” is caused by a religious spirit, not the Holy Spirit. God wants you to have a cheerful heart when giving anything, especially I believe when it comes to pouring into others. When you truly have a fresh anointing you are eager to share it with the world, with all of your loved ones, and anyone who will listen. THIS I imagine brings more joy and pleasure to the Lord than any obligated offering.

So many forget that the Fruit of the SPIRIT is LOVE, JOY, PEACE, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, GOODNESS, , FAITHFULNESS, & GENTLENESS. (see Galatians 5:22,23) If you’re not working in any of those, chances are you’re working in your own power. Can it still affect others, absolutely. Gods Word will not return void. However, the power of the Spirit will always exceed anything we can do by our own strength.

So I ask you…..quoting Janet Jackson “What have you done for God lately?” Are you pouring into anyone else, are you in a season where you’re allowing others to pour into you? Or are you going through the motions, appearing to be alive, but inside you’re really dead? Because if you are then I plead with you to read the letter to the church of SARDIS in Revelations 3….because that is the spirit within you that Jesus is calling….won’t you listen?

~sometimes I just gotta write~

Another life lesson given through my children

A couple weeks ago I posted a blog that was inspired from my study time with my 7yr old son Tristan. We are currently doing a plan through called “The Book of Daniel with Kids” (To read earlier post click here) today we are on day 14 Chapter 4:28-37 The Dream is Fulfilled (click here to read about the dream warning the King, and the consequences for disobedience Chapter 4)

These last few lines of King Nebuchadnezzar’s letter “to the peoples, nations and men of every language, who live in all the world” (that includes you and me btw), he talks about what God did to him because of his disobedience to heed the warning given one year earlier. God tells him that he will basically make him a crazy, grass eating, homeless man. That 7 years will pass before he will learn the lesson that God rules every kingdom on earth.

I paused and ask Tristan why he thought God said it would be 7 years and the king couldn’t learn his lesson sooner with all these warnings. His answer makes my heart smile so much.

“Because God knows what’s going to happen at anytime, in the future or the past.”

Friends, do you know how important this truth is? Do you understand the security that is being built within his heart knowing this at 7 years old? I don’t write this to boast about my parenting, because I drop the ball with him big time. But what I will boast about is the wisdom that God has given me through painful experiences of tragic deaths, divorce, abuse, and a life filled with darkness, to teach my children.

Because I grew up without the Lord I know what a difference choosing Him makes on families. The pain and destruction that passes on to generation after generation. God has shown me through my life and the lives of my family, what will happen again if I do not heed His instructions and build a foundation so solid and so deep that nothing and no one will be able to destroy it.

What about you? Have you suffered in this life? Do you feel as if you have been given the short end of the stick? Friend, may I remind you that God uses the lowly to do His work. God has never forsaken you…EVER. He knew every ounce of pain that you endured. He has a purpose for it…if you would just choose to believe that He is a GOOD GOD, and ALL POWERFUL GOD, and a GOD THAT LOVES YOU TO THE CROSS AND BACK! Trust HIM!

At the end of the kings 7 years God restored his sanity, honor, and kingdom. He ruled his people under Gods authority and warns you at the end of verse 37 that those of us who walk in pride God is able to humble.

God is in control. I know it appears that He isn’t, but I assure you that not a moment passes that He does not have TOTAL control. This is my plea to all the parents who happen to be reading this…. do not allow another day to go by without asking God to help you raise the children He entrusted you with. If you are living a life that is unpleasing to Him, STOP! Your warning is here….God has seen the evil that we are allowing to consume our lives and the lives of our children. God has already Won. Victory is His. He has already predestined our children to be victorious.

Will we choose to see this life as our own, or will we pick up our cross as parents and seek Gods help in raising His Kings and Queens? I pray that you and I will build up our children so that no lies will ever destroy them.