Words Matter 

​My son, give attention to my words; Incline your ear to my sayings. Do not let them depart from your sight; Keep them in the midst of your heart. For they are life to those who find them And health to all their body. Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life. Put away from you a deceitful mouth And put devious speech far from you.

Proverbs 4:20‭-‬24 NASB

If His Words give life, what do you think happens when we have a deceitful mouth and devious speech? 

We must guard what we say, sing, and think. What we hear and allow to take root in our hearts and minds MATTER. 

Focus on the Good

Have you ever had a powerful week in the Lord and then BAM someone comes at you with hateful words? 

Words that run through your mind and even though you know those words are filled with anger and hate they still manage to take up residence within your mind and heart? 

This happened to me recently. As I lay in bed thinking about what was said about me, contemplating the truth to what was said. Because let’s face it, sometimes the truth can be delivered by those who dislike you. Also, why does it bother us so much if there isn’t a possibility of it being true. 

But God…  

And Jesus knowing their thoughts said, “Why are you thinking evil in your hearts?

Matthew 9:4 NASB

When you have God’s Word hidden in your heart He will speak truth over you. This is what He spoke to me while my mind and heart became obsessed and bitter. 

I’m aware of my ways. I’m aware of my enemies. And truth is so is Satan. He knows the thorns I have. He knows who to use and what they need to say to get my eyes distracted from God and on my flesh. 

But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing.

James 3:14‭-‬16 NASB

Everything that comes from me dwelling on what was said is demonic. Period. This is why it’s so important that we continually check our thoughts. Submit them to Christ. Be on alert because the devil is always seeking to destroy that which is pure within. 

But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy.

James 3:17 NASB

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord , my rock and my Redeemer.

Psalms 19:14 NASB

Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life. Put away from you a deceitful mouth And put devious speech far from you.

Proverbs 4:23‭-‬24 NASB 

Friends, it’s important that we guard our thoughts, and what we speak over ourselves. 

The enemy is always accusing the Children of God. We must not agree with what is spoken in hate. These words are demonic. Do not entertain such words. Focus on what is true, honorable, worthy, peaceable and pure. These things are from your Father. 

Today I pray for you and I. I pray that we refuse to give the devil a foothold in our hearts and minds. That we guard them diligently and continually submit all thoughts to Christ and only allow His Words which bring peace take root within. 

And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

James 3:18 NASB

He listens to me 

​I love the Lord , because He hears My voice and my supplications. Because He has inclined His ear to me, Therefore I shall call upon Him as long as I live.

Psalms 116:1‭-‬2 NASB

It was so easy for me to fall in love with God. He listens to me. He would answer my broken cries in ways that were so personal and direct that I couldn’t deny His Presence in my life. 

As the youngest child, and the only girl. I lived an internal life growing up. No one quite understanding who I was or taking the time to hear what I had to say. 

As a teenager I was an overly emotional kid. And this only grew my internal struggle. As a young wife and mother in a relationship that started on so many troubled levels. I always strived to be accepted and heard that I again lost my voice. 

As I came to the Lord I knew deep down that I desired for my children and other women to be HEARD. 

For me it’s the most painful scars I have. One that I guard fiercly. 

Not being heard. 

It provokes my flesh like no other within my current marriage. 

Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.

Ephesians 6:11‭-‬12 NASB 

Although my mind knows our battles are the devils schemes, and he is not a gentlemen and will use this pain as a weapon to destroy, it makes my ache no less painful. 

My scars are REAL. My pain is REAL. And my battle needs to be real as well. By knowing how the devil is using my pain as a weapon helps to arm me with the TRUTH of this pain. Its my flesh. And my flesh will always be hostile towards God. So when the enemy can get me to focus on myself and my pain then he steals my joy. Like John 10:10 says He will. 

So what do we do in times like this? Just act as if nothing’s happened? No. Denying it makes it grow. Face it. Make your spouse aware that they’re being used by the enemy to hurt you. Pray that your spouse begins to guard himself and his words by seeking God. Period. That’s how you defeat this enemy is by seeking God. Apologies are good, but if your anything like me your rather action be the apology as words can be empty when not followed up with action. 

Then you get your heart into God’s hands and embrace the TRUTH that He listens to you and He loves you completely, as you are His bride. 

For your husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.

Isaiah 54:5 NASB

After you’ve both allowed God to speak to your hearts then come together and let God guide your conversations. Always Seek God. 

Well-meaning words that create limits on God

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. The Word became flesh made his home among us. John 1:1,2,14

The Word of God is obviously powerful, I mean it is saying here that Jesus Christ is in fact the “Word” that was and is with God in the beginning. And we know the power that Jesus has, so that means that The Words that we speak and think are also powerful. If indeed we have the Spirit of Christ living in us. When we speak and meditate on Gods Word we are giving our Spirit and those who hear Life. We are indeed being good and faithful servants of Our Father.

And when we evil we then are speaking Death into others, and ourselves. I’m not going to dive all the way into this but there is something I want to make very clear to anyone with ears to hear. James tells us in 3:9 “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness.” We all are guilty of this, and those with His Spirit are convicted and repent of this, hopefully.

But there is another way where the enemy of our souls has slipped in, and that is through prayer and well-meaning sayings. The most recent saying that just makes my mind want to explode every-time I read it on a pretty picture. This saying is :

We may never know the reason why things happen, but we still must trust”

The best lies are 99%true. People this word NEVER has just sealed the deal that you will in fact NEVER know the reason. NEVER is without wiggle room. God says with Him ALL things are possible, to those who BELIEVE. This well meaning partial truth is what we in fact believe. Jesus tells us if we ask God for ANYTHING in HIS NAME it will surely be given to us. I have personally been given a reason for everything bad that has happened to me. Some were tiny things that gave me a glimmer of peace, others were amazing. Some were instant the longest took almost 13 years to receive, but I did receive it. And so will you, if you claim it and stop speaking and believing that God isn’t capable, or loving enough to reveal part of Hid goodness to you in your grief.

 I am not claiming that God will give us the reason in it’s entirety, but He WILL give you enough to grant you peace, His Word says that ALL things He works for GOOD. Trust this and the countless of other promises that God gives us throughout the bible that give HOPE. We have to watch what we say. How we pray, and what we claim for our lives in Christ.

Believe He is a God that anything is possible. Don’t limit what Our Father will do in our lives.

To be continued…possibly.